Self in IFS therapy

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy suggests we all have different “parts” inside us. But there’s also a core “Self” beneath it all. It’s not something you need to create — it’s already within you. The Self embodies qualities like compassion, curiosity, and calm. It’s who you are at your core, separate from the various “Parts” of your personality. IFS helps you uncover this Self, allowing it to lead your internal system.

What is Self Energy?

In IFS, we see your mind as a complex tapestry of “parts,” each with its unique voice and role. These parts often emerge from your life experiences, including protective elements that shield you from pain and vulnerable aspects that hold your deepest wounds. But beneath this intricate web lies your essence — your “Self.”

This Self, or “self-energy,” is your core being. The calm, compassionate presence remains when all your parts are at ease. Think of it as your inner compass, guiding you with wisdom and clarity. When you’re in touch with your Self, you’ll feel more grounded, curious, and open to life’s possibilities.

Eight C’s of Self

In IFS therapy, you’ll encounter the concept of Self-energy. This powerful force within you embodies eight key qualities, often called the “8 C’s.”

Calm

Imagine a serene lake, its surface undisturbed by ripples. That’s the calm that Self-energy brings to your inner world. This calm is a soothing balm for your emotional storms, helping you navigate life’s challenges more easily. When you’re in touch with your Self, you’ll notice that even amid chaos, a part of you remains steady and unshaken.

Curiosity and Compassion

Curiosity is the part of you that asks, “I wonder why I reacted that way?” instead of criticizing yourself. Compassion, on the other hand, is your inner nurturer. The voice says, “It’s okay, you’re human,” when you make mistakes. This deep sense of understanding and kindness creates a safe space for all parts of you to express themselves and heal.

Clarity and Courage

Clarity in Self-energy is like a fog lifting, revealing a clear path ahead. It’s the ability to see situations, relationships, and yourself without the distortions of fear or past traumas. This clarity helps you understand your thoughts and feelings more fully, making it easier to make decisions aligned with your true self. Courage, its companion, is the strength to face what clarity reveals.

Confidence

Confidence, within the context of the Self, is the quiet, grounded trust in your inherent abilities and inner wisdom. It’s not about arrogance or external validation but a deep knowing that you possess the resources and capacity to navigate life’s challenges. It’s the assurance that your inner Self can guide you effectively.

Connectedness and Creativity

Connectedness is feeling grounded and in tune with yourself and others. This sense of connection can provide comfort and support, especially during challenging times. Creativity, the final C, is your inner problem-solver and innovator. It’s the ability to approach challenges with fresh perspectives and find unique solutions. In Self-energy, creativity is about being open to new ways of thinking, feeling, and being.

How Self-Energy Heals Parts

When you tap into your self-energy, you become a compassionate leader for your inner parts. This powerful force allows you to approach even the most challenging aspects of yourself with curiosity and empathy. By listening deeply to your parts’ concerns, you create a safe space for healing. Your self-energy acts as a mediator, facilitating open dialogue between conflicting parts and helping them find common ground.

This internal communication is key to achieving harmony and integration within your psyche. You cultivate an environment where true healing can flourish as you nurture your parts with self-energy qualities of patience, wisdom, and acceptance. Remember, your self-energy catalyzes transformative change within your internal family system.

The Self in IFS is your core essence, free from the burdens and beliefs of your parts. By tapping into your self-energy, you’re unlocking a powerful tool for healing and growth. So why not give it a shot? Book a consultation today to learn more.